Tuesday, September 20, 2016

It is Better to be Kind than Smart

I struggle with the aforementioned title. I would rather be smart than be kind. I would rather win than love (sometimes). It’s easier to rattle off answers and numbers and facts than to lend a helping hand or to have compassion on the forgotten soul. I’m not sure why this is, but the best way I can think of it is some people are more predisposed to be kind, while others have to work towards it.

Intelligence is something that we are born and bred to marvel at and to compete with each other over. We all want to be the smartest, the brightest, the best in the class. Those people are rewarded the most and with the better grades and eventually the better salaries and promotions. Intelligence is valued in our society as it very well should be. Without a moderate degree of smarts, society ceases to move forward.

But what about kindness? Do we place the same values on it? The short and difficult answer is that no, we do not. Kindness and charity and compassion and love are not valued as highly as intelligence and competition are. Society simply does not care if you’re kind or not, kindness doesn’t add more dollars nor does it add to your pedigree. Essentially, kindness is done without thought of compensation or reward, while the pursuit of intelligence rewards more obtrusively and expensively. We can sometimes view kind people as weak, as unwilling to stand up for themselves while their neighbor steamrollers over them. Our society does not tolerate weakness; it’s hereditary. Since the beginning of time, the weak were left behind while only the strong survived.

This lack of balance in the scales of brain and heart is most unfortunate. Our biological instincts lead us astray in this one area. Because, while society cannot move forward without intelligence, it can also be said that it will cease to exist altogether without the repeated applications of kindness.

Interestingly enough, there are very few scriptures in the Bible that speak positively on the subject of human intellect. It’s usually the complete opposite. Over and over we find scriptures stating that our own brainpower and wisdom comes from the Lord, not from ourselves, and we find repeated implications that if you think you’re incredibly smart, the answer is that you usually aren’t. But when it comes to love, on the other hand, we find one of the most oft repeated texts from the Bible staring us bluntly in the face:

“If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it;  but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.” 1 Corinthians 13

These verses serve to remind us that without love, and thereby, kindness, we are nothing. Love cannot be purchased or measured but it wins friends and trust and a life of beauty in ways that our brains simply cannot. Love produces kindness and compassion in unequaled amounts; it cannot be compared to.


In the end love is the prevailing force that conquers all. Without it, we are nothing. But with it, we can accomplish more than we ever hoped to.

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